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  • Anya Szumowski

A Case for Blocking Your Ex

Navigating the tumultuous waters of post-breakup life can be incredibly difficult. As a mental health therapist, I've seen firsthand the emotional rollercoaster that breakups often bring. While there are no one-size-fits-all solutions for healing a broken heart, I'd like to make a case for something that can be surprisingly therapeutic: blocking your ex.


I know, I know, you might be thinking this seems a bit too harsh. But, not necessarily. Here's why...


1. Protecting Your Emotional Space

Breaking up can leave us feeling vulnerable and emotionally raw. When you keep your ex on your social media, you allow them access to your life, which can be like picking at a scab on a wound that needs to heal. Blocking your ex is not about being vindictive; it's about protecting your emotional space.


By cutting off this direct line of communication, you give yourself the gift of time and space to process your emotions without external interference. It allows you to prioritize your own healing and self-care.


2. Avoiding Unhealthy Comparisons

Stalking your ex's social media... I think most of us have probably been here. And it can quickly become an obsession that leads to unhealthy comparisons. You might find yourself constantly comparing your life to theirs, wondering why they seem to be doing better or moving on faster. This comparison game is a surefire way to hinder your own healing. Blocking your ex eliminates this temptation, allowing you to focus on your own journey rather than fixating on theirs. Remember, healing is not a race, and everyone's path is unique.


3. Breaking the Cycle of Toxicity

If your breakup was accompanied by toxic behaviors or a tumultuous relationship, it's even more crucial to consider blocking your ex. Keeping that connection open can lead to repeated cycles of drama, hurtful exchanges, and emotional turmoil.


Blocking your ex sends a clear message to yourself that you are committed to breaking free from any toxic patterns that may have existed in the relationship. It's a step toward reclaiming your personal boundaries and self-respect.


4. Embracing Closure

Closure is a sought-after yet often elusive concept in the realm of breakups. It's a common misconception that closure comes from external sources. In fact, it's essential to understand that closure is something we can grant ourselves rather than relying on our ex-partner's validation.

By proactively choosing to cut ties and create space, you give yourself the opportunity for internal reflection and self-acceptance. This deliberate act allows you to process your emotions and come to terms with the end of the relationship on your terms, emphasizing that closure is a personal journey you can embark on, rather than something you need to seek outside of yourself.

5. Fostering Independence and Self-Care

Ultimately, blocking your ex is an act of self-care and self-care. It's a declaration that your well-being comes first. It's a step towards rebuilding your life independently, without the constant presence of someone from your past.


As you focus on your own growth, hobbies, and passions, you'll find strength and resilience within yourself. And as you heal, you'll be better equipped to enter future relationships with a healthier perspective.



In the end, blocking your ex isn't about being spiteful or vengeful; it's about prioritizing your mental health, and allowing for the space and opportunity to truly heal and grow.


So, I rest my case. And wish you strength, love, and a brighter future ahead :)




Breakup Recovery • Social Media • Self-Care • Breakups • Healing • Self-Love • Healthy Boundaries • Healthy Relationships


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